How to Move in Silence in the Era of Social Media
Does this sound familiar?...
An opportunity that sounds perfect suddenly arises, or we finally get news on something we've been wanting.
We know we have all of the qualifications for said opportunity so we excitedly call on our closest friends or family to share the news. We begin to ask them what they think. We open ourselves to outside perspectives while also letting them know what this could mean for us. Our peers entertain the "Whens", "Hows", and the "What Ifs", sounding delighted to hear our news. We may even make a little post about it, feeling we already have it in the bag, so why not do a little flex?
Next thing we know, after all the shared excitement, things don't follow through like we thought. Confused and/or frustrated, we start thinking about what we could have done differently...
Well, Sis, buckle up because we are going to talk about the importance of moving in silence!
What is moving in silence?
Moving in silence is taking actions and steps to work on something bigger in your life without announcing its progress. This applies to any project, purchase, job, relationship, or event that can turn the fate of your life.
So how can we begin to move in silence when we live in a culture that believes: "If you didn't post it, did it even happen?"
Well for starters... GET OFF YOUR PHONE!
Oftentimes when we become inspired, we begin searching for validation. We tend to distract ourselves online with the prize portion of what we are interested in, forgetting that we need to really solidify it for ourselves first.
By staying off our phone during the beginning stages of our new projects, we allow ourselves to be fully present and immersed in the opportunity. It also prevents us from being discouraged by seeing others who may be a bit farther in what we are just starting.
It’s always good to keep in mind, your journey is your journey and social media is just a place where people show their highlight reels. So don't get distracted! There is no need to see what others are up to when you are just beginning to immerse yourself in a new opportunity.
Which leads me to the next point... Creation takes time.
2. NEVER ANNOUNCE THINGS PREMATURELY.
There is no coincidence when we announce something prematurely and it doesn't happen. In doing the action of announcing things, we already sign up to have our value or other perceptions of our value compared to the opportunity.
This does not mean people are not weighing us well, it’s just a good segway to saying don't jynx yourself by talking about the opportunity until the opportunity has been secured!
No matter how much it's welling up inside, we have to keep our own secrets as we work. Remember, discipline is a form of self-love. This means we keep it shush until the key is in our hand, the offer letter has been received, or whatever qualifies you meeting this goal is set in stone and nothing can change that. The truth is, no one really needs to know what we are in the process of seeking until it's secured.
Now, this does NOT mean don't collaborate. Family, friends, and colleagues have a very important place in your success and happiness. We will definitely touch on that later but right now, this is about you and how we can go from premeditation to action. Because what feels better? Saying you're going to go get it, or coming through once you've already gotten it.
3. DON'T TELL STRANGERS YOUR BUSINESS
People love a good story. They become committed emotionally to seeing all the things that come along with the storyline: plot twist, drama, and climax. They want to hear all the news we're willing to surrender. They will be there applauding us all the way through. even if the goals fall short.
Now to them, it's just another story. But to us, it's our life, and it's embarrassing to announce something just to have it fall short. I'm sure some of you are thinking: "Why wouldn't people be happy for me? I'm always genuinely happy for people when good things happen to them."
The truth is, not everyone who may come across the news on your timeline is genuinely happy for you. When we announce things before we have secured them, we sometimes fail to consider who may be wishing against us. This may be because they are coming from a place of lack or low vibration. We also don't know who is wishing on the same exact opportunity as us, and we just happened to put it in their line of vision. Now I'm not saying we need to be completely secretive about what we're doing, but keep in mind: it's okay to omit information for our better good as we are working on ourselves and our goals.
4. KEEP THAT SAME ENERGY YOU PUT INTO GETTING THE OPPORTUNITY
There's a saying that goes: "Those who know, do not speak. Those who speak, do not know".
There are many interpretations of this saying, but my favorite is it’s hard to be both an observer and the person talking. When we are splitting our attention, we lose focus.
Think about it, as we were working towards the qualifications that opened this avenue of opportunity for us, we didn't have time to talk on it because we were still developing this skill. When we did have time to talk it was more than likely with like-minded collaborators and colleagues. It was a reciprocation of energy as opposed to unloading.
This is where friends and family come into play! Family and friends are our favorite collaborators, brainstormers, and biggest supporters. The people we chose to share the good, the bad, and the ugly with. The best way to go about staying in the same energy is collaborating. You can do this without divulging information that can be crucial to the opportunity. A great way of doing this is by asking them hypothetical questions. Remember, you are not obligated to tell anyone information you do not want them to know. Keep your mind on your business and your business on your mind.
With the free time we may have to wait to hear back from a recent submission, application, or opportunity - stay in that same mindset. Stay excited and ready to receive the blessings that are coming our way. The only blessings we can receive are the ones we are ready for. PERIOD.
Always keep in mind, God rewards the humble.
5. MANIFEST YOUR REALITY
Preparing for blessings is VITAL. The worst feeling is when we finally get a "blessing" we've been asking for, but the moment we get it, we quickly realize it's not the right time and we might have bitten off more than we can chew.
The best way to prepare and manifest your reality is to keep these things in mind...
There is power in having control over our emotions, ESPECIALLY over our excitement.
There is power in attuning your craft even when no one is there to applaud us through the process.
There is power in collaboration and even energy exchanges.
There is power in keeping promises to ourselves.
With every moment we take to exercise these powers, the stronger what we are seeking will seek us in return.
Move in silence, announce things once they have been completed, and watch how your life changes!