Do We REALLY Need an Apple a Day?

I knew an Apple announcement was on the way because my phone has been glitching and tweaking to no end lately. As expected, Apple has just announced their four new products launching in the upcoming months: the iPhones XS, XS Max, XR, and the Apple Watch Series 4. Boasting new camera capabilities and FaceTime calls with up to 32 people, faster processing speeds with new and improved iOS systems, it honestly sounds like a dream to those wanting bigger and better!

 But why?

 Let’s think about it. Why does Apple have such a hold on us? Steer away from the “Their products are really just that good debate,” and think on a deeper level. What is sooooo great about Apple products that makes it seem like our lives depend on them?

 Think of your phone (Android users, sit this one out). I can tell you now, if I misplace my phone, the lump that forms in my throat makes it hard to swallow. The fear that my phone is lost forever is just that overwhelming. When I think of everything I store on my phone from the years’ worth of memories and experiences to my endless notes and calendar reminders, it is evident that I have placed my life and trust into this phone.

 But do I trust my friends that much? My family? Myself? It’s so easy to give a quick “of course” without thinking of all the things I keep to myself, as if the people I care about the most won’t understand. But my iPhone does? Right.

 There’s a certain attachment we have to our iPhones that is indescribable, yet we continue to turn a deaf ear to the attachment when its brought up in discussion. Now, like most, I’m intrigued by what Apple claims their new products offer. I must admit, I’ve been consistent when it comes to getting the updated models. I must take a step back to realize and analyze this unhealthy relationship and addicted to Apple products. I’ve been hooked for years.  Is it toxic? Or am I looking too deep into it?

 Just food for thought.

 

 

Keep Doing It, Word to Serena And Colin.

For centuries, black men and women have been “Just Doing It” in every facet of life. It’s not just a slogan, but a conviction that encourages believing in the dream enough to go for it wholeheartedly, no matter the repercussion or retaliation from opposers.

Yesterday, Serena Williams was fined a hefty $17,000 for U.S. Open penalties, majorly including her passionate disagreement and demand for a respectful apology from a coach’s implication that Williams was cheating, and for more minor offenses such as smashing her racket.

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The media lost no time classifying Williams as angry, unprofessional, and volatile, as opposed to focusing on her stats, or triumphs, or even focusing on a major emotional highlight of the game as Williams not only embraced her competitor Naomi Osaka, but stopped the audience from booing Osaka for making history in her victory against her.

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Regardless of the fact that Serena Williams is the most influential tennis players to affect our society, let alone one of the most talented tennis players to ever professionally play the sport, we see that Williams is still subject to her game attire, self-expression, and overall blackness being scrutinized.

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On last Monday, people took to social media to share their  outbursts of joy or disgust as Nike announced Colin Kaepernick and Serena Williams as the faces of their new ‘Just Do It’ campaign.

Those displeased with Nike’s decision on the new campaign have literally been destroying their Nike gear and running to socials using #NikeBoycott in their own sort of attempt at ‘protest’ of the perceived ‘injustice’ from Nike’s latest ad campaign.

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Unfortunately not new to passionate, wild backlash from audiences not supportive of his views nor actions, Colin Kaepernick is an activist and advocate against injustice who was featured in the new campaign. His career and life changed indefinitely after he was removed from the NFL league when he and several other athletes kneeled instead of pledging to a constitution that systematically oppresses people of color.

“Believe in something, Even if it means sacrificing everything.” Even when everyone is doubting you, disregarding you, defacing your name and worth, and threatening your safety and peace, the importance of standing firm on the foundation of the beliefs that you have reaches an all time high.

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“It's only a crazy dream until you do it.” There is a reason why we love ‘come up’ stories from deserving beings with humble beginnings. There is a reason why witnessing or learning of one’s triumph through trial and tribulation, pulls on the heart strings. Perhaps, we know how easy it can be, how much more comfortable it can be sometimes to give up, so when someone pushes through, regardless of their situation, it is that much more beautiful to watch them win.

A dream truly is only ridiculous if you allow it to be. Hard work and dedication is essential, whether it’s grinding for that degree, surviving a tough chapter in life, or securing the top in the US OPEN 2018 final. Strength, resiliency and a vision worth your true belief are necessary ingredients for breaking through to meeting your dreams. Nike, Colin, and Serena wish to express that message as a reminder to let the naysayers and irrelevant “what ifs” melt away. Stay true to you and keep just doing it.

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Booked & Busy

I always pride myself on being “booked and busy” but never asked myself...

“Am I booked and busy with things that are going to elevate me or am I just booked and busy?”

Pursing a dream is tough to balance while working or attending school, especially if you have the nerve to be an "overachiever" and have a part-time job, or active in 100 clubs and organizations while in school. Even though all of that is extremely important, don’t forget to properly prioritize your dream. If you don’t who will?

I was talking to one of my mentors, telling her all I was doing in school, “Well, I’m Miss Hampton, writing a play, in charge of two pageants, senior class officer, trying to graduate on time, starting a movement on campus…” thinking she’s gonna be proud I’m on my shit. Then she asked me, “Well Brooklyne, how’s good girl?”

 I kinda stuttered and told her the few things I was doing, that sounded like I was coming up with bs off top, cause I was. 

She then asked, “Okay, and how’s film?”

I didn’t have an answer.

Note: Film is my dream, what I want to be pursing after college.

She replied, “See that’s the problem, when are you going to start working on your Plan A?”

That hit me like a build of blocks. She’s so right, all of these things I’m putting my time into are great, but are they truly helping me catapult my dreams into reality? So from that moment I knew I had to make a change. Stop putting everyone else’s needs before my own. Cause guess what? When Brooklyne graduates, Hampton will still be alive and well, but where will she be?

So I made a “lil list” of the things I needed to get done.

I created a class schedule for film and good girl. So for example, I had class MWF at 10am, 11am, and 3pm. Typically, during that gap I would socialize in the student center, grab lunch at Chick Fila or have a meeting about an organization. Instead, I decided to go to the library with my chick Fila and work on good girl stuff. Set specific goals for what I wanted to accomplish during that period. On Tuesdays my schedule was class at 9am, and 12pm so during that gap I would go back to the library read books on my craft, reach out to people on LinkedIn, or look up jobs and internships.

So yes, that means I was working around the clock, but how else are my dreams going to come into fruition? As my mom says, “Do one thing everyday to make your tomorrow better.”

So I encourage all my girls to make a class schedule for your dreams. Come up with a specific system that holds you accountable. It’s easy to procrastinate, next thing you know weeks have gone by, a month, and then years later and you’re further away from your dream.

The time is now sis, to get your whole life together.

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Love your homegirl,

Brooklyne

 

 

 

An Ode to Freshman Year

Oh, the things I wish I knew.

The moment I received my diploma, I remember the adrenaline bursting through my veins as I prepared for my freshmen year of college. While the last four years were filled with unshakeable friendships and memories, I knew that I was ready for something new, something fresh.

I was starting my own life, living on the outskirts of Atlanta. Downtown was literally my doorstep, and I couldn’t wait to play outside.

I remember my freshmen year. The nonstop parties where I would bask in the glow of the city lights, the 3 AM food that tasted much better than anything made during the day. Attending every campus and city event I had gas to get to. I remember experiencing life. I remember feeling free.

Looking back though, I wish I remembered to use my best judgement and not necessarily my “spur of the moment” ideas that fell out the sky.

I wish I knew that hangovers were a real thing, and that class still continued despite me being in attendance.

I wish I knew my high school GPA wouldn’t save me, and that failing a class meant that I had wasted my tuition money.

I wish I knew that missing a party or two was perfectly fine.

I wish I knew about the boys, the grown men, the heartbreak, the depression.

I simply wish I remembered the Queen I was, I wish that never left my memory.

But, Now it’s your turn.

Your turn to do it right.

Freshmen year is a very transitional time, as some of the greatest moments of your entire life are currently commencing. With that, you have a duty to yourself to make these moments unforgettable, but in the best way possible. So often, I wish I had a time machine to erase the decisions I could’ve avoided, had I simply stopped to think.

As an ode to your first year, promise me you’ll think. See, as a Black Queen, there is a consistent magnifying glass on your every move. And honey, they see you. You’re being scrutinized for every minute decision you make, by people you didn’t even know were looking.. Think about every decision and every idea.  If needed, overthink. That one thought can be the turning point for not only the rest of your college years, but your life in general. Now this isn’t to say that you can’t make mistakes; they’re inevitable. However, learn from the mistakes of others. Learn from the mistakes I’ve made. Put yourself in the best position possible, so that your freshman year is one you’re proud of. I know you can.

Go on Black Girl, Be Magic.

The Pursuit of Happiness

I can't help but wonder if human beings are ever truly satisfied. It's difficult to not let my mind trick me into thinking that I'm trying to do too much in such a short period of time. I constantly feel as if I'm racing with the clock, even though I always tell others that there's time to achieve their goals; it's never about who finishes first. Even if I achieve everything I've ever wanted, career-wise, what if I still end up feeling unfulfilled? What if, 5 years from now when I'm sitting in the house that I've built for myself, my children snuggled up under me and my spouse working his dream job, I still feel as though something is missing? Will my accomplishments matter if I don't feel complete?

My educational goals have always been to zoom right through school and begin a graduate program immediately after graduation. Now, there's not necessarily anything wrong with that, but when you speed right through instead of enjoying the journey, sometimes you don't give yourself enough time to grow and fall in love with what it is you are pursuing. I had always viewed nursing school as an obstacle that I needed to get through in order to pursue my REAL goal of becoming a nurse midwife. I didn't have any concrete expectations for nursing school; all I knew was that I needed it to be over and done with so that I could begin my journey to becoming a midwife. I think I can for sure admit that I was not expecting to love nursing the way I do now. That is important; after all, as a nurse midwife, I will always be a nurse first. It was through this "falling in love" phase that I came to understand what it truly means to appreciate every aspect of one's journey. That's not to say that I still don't have days where I am ready for nursing school to be over, but I believe that this is all a part of the "learning and loving" process. Be passionate about your goals & allow yourself to open up to the possibility of appreciating your journey. Don't get so caught up in the race against time that the fire you once had for your passion begins to dim.

 My one true fear is that I'll always be going after "more," that I'll always be searching for something better; that my desire (or greed, depending on how you choose to look at it) for something "better" will cause me to miss out on the things that truly matter. 

    Lord, I pray you help me to understand that happiness is not a destination, but a state of mind. Help me appreciate every stepping stone in my life. Help me to unlearn any selfish ways in my life so that I may be able to impact another person's life in an unimaginable way. Amen.