Most of us know what it feels like to fall for someone. You get butterflies when you see them. You want to spend most, if not all, of your time with them. You share all of your secrets with them. Extending past a romance, you become each other’s buddy system. Your significant other becomes a piece of you and it feels great to have someone to confide in for just about anything.
Then, things start to shift. Communication goes down the drain and the bombs are let loose. Arguing becomes a norm over everything from lifted toilet seat lids to liked pictures on Instagram. The butterflies turn into a fire and by the time it has been extinguished, the relationship is over.
Then you enter the post-pocalypse. You find yourself scrolling through old photos of memories shared. They pop up on your snap chat, instagram story, twitter feed- the list goes on. You’re basically in your feelings, and seeing them all over the place doesn’t help.
Let’s face it, it hurts. Whether the relationship ended on a good or bad note. With any and all trauma, you go through stages of grief. Media triggers can disrupt your ability to accept and move on. So, should you erase your ex-partner?
“Are you sure you would like to block or remove this user?” You might be familiar with this message. Blocks have to be authorized which makes them seem hostile. If you click yes, it can be like pulling the trigger. Some might see this an immature shot being fired.
But a block doesn’t have to comparable be a digital restraining order. It can be a very useful tool in acceptance. Blocking puts the control in your hands. It allows you to get the space you need to forgive and accept. It’s nothing personal. You don’t owe anyone access to you, regardless of your terms. Besides, a block can easily be undone, giving you as much time as you need to detach. It’s a power move that, when used correctly, can help you grieve in a healthy way.
Breakups are hard enough as it is. Everyone will have their own way of letting go. Everyone will have their own opinions about the “blocking debate.” But, as far as I see it, out of sight, out of mind.
Please share your views on blocking in the comments below. When is it acceptable to block someone? Should their be time limits to how long you can block someone before it becomes hostile? Should you tell your ex-partner if you decide to block them? Let’s chat.
