For years I’ve always let other people decide my worth, and the place that I held in their lives. I’ve forced friendships, forced conversations, and even forced myself to be more involved in the movement of others, that I didn’t take any time for myself to do all of the things I was meant to be doing.
That’s until I looked around one day and noticed, what pouring into others did to me. It made me isolate myself when I was angry, it made me depressed, it consumed my spirit and I turned hateful. I never knew how much damage pouring from an empty cup would have, until I was fishing for someone to give me a drop of what I’ve been giving them.
I always thought that if I was a good person things would pan out for me in the end, no matter how depressing or lonely it was to be a good person. If I put good into the world and love with all of me, it will come back full force. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve definitely reaped the blessings of all that I’ve sown. But it didn’t necessarily work out the way I once thought it did. Giving your all and being a good person is one thing. But allowing yourself to be used, manipulated and always going above and beyond for people who don’t want to do the same is different.
I can love all of you, and still limit the number of texts I send, limit the number of favors, and take control over my role in your life.
People automatically assume that you are mean and you’ve changed, once you shift your role in their life. They are so used to you always being available, and accepting every excuse they have, that when you don’t respond the way they hoped, they are confused and want nothing to do with you.
But, I am here to tell you. That people do all of the things for those they deem important, anything you want isn’t far fetched or out of reach. You can have anything you plan for, anything you think you want, and all you deserve.
Stop allowing people to suck the life out of you.
If they want you in their life, they need to take you as you are.
