It's “The Way You Love Me”, For Me

“What Is A Love Language?”: Love languages are one of the most important yet disregarded parts of relationships. Love languages pinpoint how a person accepts love and how a person needs to be loved.

Different Types of Love Languages:

• Words of affirmation: All love languages include some type of reassurance, however this one specifically needs encouraging, meaningful words because of a lack of trust or independence. This person may second guess themselves a lot or always ask for an opinion. They may often struggle with always wanting to make the right decision, so try not to get annoyed with their questions. Always be there pushing them to depend on their own judgement and intuition!

• Quality time: Memories, memories, memories! This person is all about having a good time. Any event you name it, they just want to be around. This type of person may struggle with being alone for long periods of time or always wanting to check on you. Don’t get distant! Communication is very important here or assumptions can crawl in creating mishap.

• Receiving gifts: Not so much a materialistic person, receiving gifts for them is a more of a solidified way to reassure them about your feelings or bond. This also doesn’t necessarily mean the amount of money spent is important, just thinking about them enough to give into them is want counts, big or small! It’ll make them feel on top of the world.

• Physical touch: A lot of people see this type of  love language  as clingy. They may have a hard time expressing themselves with words, so they use physical touch to showcase their feelings and emotions. This person may not want to be touched or need an excessive amount of space when they’re upset to refuel. Best thing to do after they’ve cooled off, give them a hug to let them know you’re present.

• Acts of service: Similar to gift giving but this love language focuses on actions. Doesn’t necessarily have to be a gift, simply surprising them with a visit or going out of your way to bring them a meal could mean the world to them! It’s all about them knowing you are going to be there when the rain comes!

It’s not only  important to acknowledge someone's love language, it is also imperative that we get to know our own love language, and begin to implement the way we want to be loved in our own self-love journey. It begins with you, once you know what works for you and what your heart desires, you allow other people to be open to explore that space with you. 

Anyone who's in love or cares about the relationship they hold with a person, should want to be sure they’re properly feeding their partner’s mental and emotional wellbeing.  

If you’ve ever felt like you just didn’t get a person or they never seem satisfied, the cause for friction may be that you were unaware of the other’s love language or even you feeding your own love language into them (which will never be received how it’s expected to be). 

Growing up my mother, and most of my family for that matter, weren’t aware of my love language (physical touch). During my youth, I was deprived of the millions of hugs, cuddles, and tickles I needed and unknowingly was force fed my mother’s love language (acts of service). 

It was simple for me to overlook the materialistic things I received growing up because essentially all I needed was love and affection. Over time this left me in major distress and my mind often wondered if I was even loved as a child. 

Being starved from my love language for so long has made me do two things. First, analyze and comprehend others' behavior to avoid ignoring their love languages and secondly, plummet deeply towards mine, which is dangerous.

Love languages have a great importance that can make or break not only a relationship, but the long-term effects on a person's mental and emotional health. You never want to love a person the wrong way and you definitely never want to make someone feel unappreciated. 

Furthermore, avoiding or dismissing a loved one's personal needs will only cause confusion, animosity, and resentment. Analyze your loved one's around you and if you’re still unsure, communicate with them about what makes them feel their best! 

It’s easy for empirical things like love languages to be set aside, but it truly is the little things that count. Take that extra step to utilize love languages in your everyday lives.

If you want to get started with loving yourself correctly, or demanding those around you to;

Click the link below to find out the way you desire to be loved. 

https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/