My roommate said something to me when we were talking one day, and whenever I become overly critical of myself, I think back to what she told me.
“Don’t be your biggest bully.”
I hadn’t even realized it but I was my biggest bully. I was the hardest on myself. There were times when I would think about things that have happened in my past, things I’ve done, how I’ve reacted, and literally beat myself up over it.
But, why? Why do we do this? Is it going to change anything about the past? Is it going to make us feel better to harp on how horrible these past actions have made us feel?
The short answer is NO.
It’s vital to remember that we are ever-changing women, with divine femininity. That being said, we are not perfect, we make mistakes. However, we can’t harp on them. What we can do is, take accountability, reflect, offer ourselves grace, and move on sis.
No single choice that you make in this lifetime will define who you are as a human being or as a woman.
Forgiveness of self is so important because although we make friendships that may last a lifetime, fall in love with a partner, or whatever soul ties we maintain on this earth, the only person you are truly stuck with is yourself. It’s vital to look in the mirror and understand...
She’s not going anywhere. I must treat her nicely.
It’s also important to understand why we hold on so tightly to these grudges against ourselves. Often times it stems from knowing that a decision you made would not be looked at as a respectable decision, and make you look or feel incompetent in the eyes of others. We then carry these thoughts on our shoulders, over analyze them and mentally subtract from our self worth because of it.
As we move, life moves with us. Don’t be so distracted by the past that you allow it to overflow into the future. You are worthy of forgiveness, love, light, and compassion... but it starts within.
You owe it to you, to forgive yourself for all you did and all you didn’t do, so you can get everything that’s for YOU.
And honestly sis, if we out here forgiving these men the LEAST we can do is match that same energy when it comes to self.
