As “cuffing season” approaches, it is more than necessary that we go over dating tips. We all know it’s not easy “tryna get chose” or finding someone who meets our standards these days. It may seem that we all want the same outcome in a relationship because we all post the same memes, quotes, goals, etc. So why is it so hard to find the one? Here are some dating tips and tricks that could potentially save you from heartache and wasted time. You can thank me later.
1. Shoot your shot!
More often than not we shoot ourselves down before anyone else does. Don’t be afraid to go after what you want. Most guys appreciate a woman who speaks up and isn’t afraid to “shoot her shot”. It shows a great deal of confidence and courage. Confidence is ALWAYS on the list of what men want to find in companion so what are you waiting for ? Go get your man girl!
2. If a man says he isn’t ready for commitment or a relationship, BELIEVE HIM.
As women we sometimes think that we can heal and change a man’s way of thinking to make him fall in love with us. You are running a huge risk of being disappointed once you realize that no matter what you do this man is going to do what he wants to do regardless. He told you from the beginning he wasn’t ready for a relationship. Continuing to stay around could put you in one of the most dangerous, confusing, and forbidden, relationship statuses out there… a “situationship”.
3. Let your guard down.
We all have had our fair share of heartbreaks in the past and we’d be lying if we said it didn’t affect the way we date now. But, in order to connect with someone you must be open and emotionally available. He can’t see how great of a person you are if you don’t let him in.
4. Go out and mingle.
How do you expect to meet someone if you never leave your house? Find the things that you are interested in and follow them. Travel, meet new people, go party every once in a while. You would be surprised of how many interesting connections you will make just by leaving your couch. Love and Hip-hop will air their reruns every Monday, get out of the house and go be social!
5. Be the “10” you want to attract.
I will never go as far as saying that someone’s standards are too high. We all reserve the right to not settle, but do ask yourself “When I meet my 10 will he be settling for me?” Make sure that you are applying the same standards to yourself that you are requiring of your companion. After all, you know what they say, “you are a reflection of the type of men you attract.
6. “Relationship goals” aren’t actual goals
How many times have you logged on to Instagram and saw “Theshaderoom” post your favorite couple having issues. Always remember social media is the glamorous side of the relationship they allow us to see. The trips, matching fits, date nights, it could all be a facade. What we don’t see is the hard work that goes on behind closed doors. Sometimes “relationship goals” couples are only together for the sake of their social media following. So avoid being being discouraged from comparison. Comparison is the thief of joy.
7. Stay true to yourself!
It’s easy to lose yourself in this dating game but it is imperative that you don’t allow that to happen. Know what you are comfortable with and what you are not comfortable with and most importantly, stick with it. Always be YOU and be true and I promise your dream guy will appreciate that!