Hey Sis, You Deserve to Be Well: 8 Self-Care Tips for Black Women and Girls

If we don’t take care of ourselves, who will?

Because your joy, your rest, and your softness are sacred. Here are 8 self-care tips for Black girls navigating life, work, school, and friendships. Before you can be whole to anyone or anything else, you have to be whole to yourself.

1. Your Hair Is Holy.. Treat It Like That

Wash day isn’t just maintenance, it’s ceremony. Whether you’re rocking braids, a twist-out, locs, or a silk press, your hair holds memory. It’s your crown, your canvas, your inheritance. So take your time. Light a candle. Play some Cleo Sol. Speak love into your coils as you detangle. You’re not just doing your hair—you’re honoring your lineage.

“My hair is a crown woven from legacy.”

2. Rest Is Not a Reward—It’s a Right

You don’t have to earn rest, sis. You deserve it just because you exist. Take that nap. Sleep in. Cancel that thing if your spirit says no. Rest is how we reclaim our time, our bodies, our breath. It’s how we say: I am not a machine. I am a miracle.

Try a Sunday reset: no emails, no errands, just rest and wine down routines.

3. Say No Without Explaining Yourself

You don’t owe anyone your energy. If it drains you, distracts you, or disrespects you—say no. Loudly. Lovingly. Without guilt. Boundaries are how we teach the world to treat us. And sis, you deserve to be treated like the masterpiece you are.

Write down 5 things you’re no longer available for. That’s your new standard.

4. Celebrate Yourself Like You’re the Main Character (Because You Are)

You did something hard today. You showed up. You tried. You made it through. That deserves celebration. Keep a “Black Girl Brag Book”, a journal of your wins, your growth, your glow-ups. Don’t wait for applause. Clap for yourself first.

End your week with a toast to you. Champagne or ginger ale.. just make it sacred and just for you.

5. Eat Like You Love Yourself

Food is ancestral. It’s healing. It’s joy. So nourish yourself with meals that feel like home. Cook your grandma’s greens. Try that new vegan spot. Eat slow. Eat loud. Eat with gratitude. Your body is a temple, not a project.

Make one meal this week that reminds you of your childhood. That’s soul care.

6. Unplug So You Can Hear Your Own Voice Again

Social media is loud. And sometimes, it drowns out your intuition. Take a break. Log off. Journal. Read a book by a Black woman. Sit in silence. Your inner voice is wise. Let her speak.

Try a “Black Girl Offline” day once a month. No screens. Just soul.

7. Move Because You Deserve to Feel Good

Forget punishing workouts. Move in joy. Dance in your kitchen. Stretch in the sun. Walk with your auntie. Your body is not a battleground, it’s a blessing. Let movement be your love language to yourself.

Create a playlist of songs that make you feel powerful. Move to it like nobody’s watching.

8. Talk to Yourself Like You Would Your Best Friend

You are not too much. You are not behind. You are not broken. Speak to yourself with softness. With hype. With grace. Mirror affirmations. Voice memos. Sticky notes on your fridge. You deserve your own tenderness.

Start each morning with: “I am worthy of care, celebration, and softness—every single day.”

Final Word, Sis

Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s survival. It’s legacy. It’s how we honor the women who came before us and make space for the girls coming after. So take your time. Take up space. Take care.

You are the blueprint. You are the blessing. You are the whole damn mood.