Deeper than the appearance of the ever-changing woman that is in front of you. Look into the soul, look into the mind, look into the possibilities of where life will take her in the next five to ten years. And as you look at her, realize that this world is yours, and you are at the very beginning of where this journey will take you, as you enter this journey, I want to leave you with some advice that can change the trajectory of your twenties if you follow it.
Be selfish with yourself.
Yes, you read it correctly. Be selfish with yourself.
I’m not telling you to lack consideration for others, stop giving back and doing the work, and start being a selfish person. I’m telling you to get selfish with yourself.
What does this look like?
Put simply, you will never be younger, more full of youth, more vibrant, and free than you are right now. We are at a point in our womanhood where we don’t have the responsibilities and weight that is destined to come with life, as we progress through it. So take this time and dedicate it to becoming your best self.
Your future self will thank you.
Put yourself first, while you are still in the position to do so. It’s so easy to fall into the hype and go with the flow of the greater majority. But, when is the last time you stopped and asked yourself “What do I like to do? What am I truly interested in?” I promise when you start living your life for you, it becomes more intentional and your days will feel fuller. However, being selfish with yourself also requires you to protect your energy. You aren’t obligated to go to that event because you were invited. You aren’t obligated to answer that text message, because it was sent. At the end of the day sis, this is your life and that is your phone. Not everyone or everything deserves your presence, or energy, or access to you.
NO EXPLANATION NEEDED.
If you need time to yourself, or simply just don’t feel like doing something, do not do it.
From the wise words of Michelle Obama “If you do not take control over your time and your life, other people will gobble it up. If you don’t prioritize yourself, you constantly start falling lower and lower on your list.”
Putting yourself first doesn’t make you an egotistical monster. It makes you a woman who knows her worth and is dedicated to applying pressure in the aspects of her life in which she is determined to elevate herself.
Elevate yourself, sis, there is no better time than now. The more heroes we lose, the more months that are occupied by a pandemic, the more hashtags, and the more people's true colors are revealed, the more important it is to live for you, you get one life sis, live it.
