7 Dating Tips for this Upcoming Cuffing Season

As “cuffing season” approaches, it is more than necessary that we go over dating tips. We all know it’s not easy “tryna get chose” or finding someone who meets our standards these days. It may seem that we all want the same outcome in a relationship because we all post the same memes, quotes, goals, etc. So why is it so hard to find the one? Here are some dating tips and tricks that could potentially save you from heartache and wasted time. You can thank me later.

 1.  Shoot your shot!

More often than not we shoot ourselves down before anyone else does.  Don’t be afraid to go after what you want. Most guys appreciate a woman who speaks up and isn’t afraid to “shoot her shot”. It shows a great deal of confidence and courage. Confidence is ALWAYS on the list of what men want to find in companion so what are you waiting for ? Go get your man girl!

 2.  If a man says he isn’t ready for commitment or a relationship, BELIEVE HIM.

As women we sometimes think that we can heal and change a man’s way of thinking to make him fall in love with us. You are running a huge risk of being disappointed once you realize that no matter what you do this man is going to do what he wants to do regardless.  He told you from the beginning he wasn’t ready for a relationship. Continuing to stay around could put you in one of the most dangerous, confusing, and forbidden, relationship statuses out there… a “situationship”.

 3. Let your guard down.

We all have had our fair share of heartbreaks in the past and we’d be lying if we said it didn’t affect the way we date now. But, in order to connect with someone you must be open and emotionally available. He can’t see how great of a person you are if you don’t let him in.

 4. Go out and mingle.

How do you expect to meet someone if you never leave your house? Find the things that you are interested in and follow them. Travel, meet new people, go party every once in a while. You would be surprised of how many interesting connections you will make just by leaving your couch. Love and Hip-hop will air their reruns every Monday, get out of the house and go be social!

5. Be the “10” you want to attract.

I will never go as far as saying that someone’s standards are too high. We all reserve the right to not settle, but do ask yourself “When I meet my 10 will he be settling for me?” Make sure that you are applying  the same standards to yourself that you are requiring of your companion. After all, you know what they say, “you are a reflection of the type of men you attract.

6. “Relationship goals” aren’t actual goals

How many times have you logged on to Instagram and saw “Theshaderoom” post your favorite couple having issues. Always remember social media is the glamorous side of the relationship they allow us to see. The trips, matching fits, date nights, it could all be a facade.  What we don’t see is the hard work that goes on behind closed doors. Sometimes “relationship goals” couples are only together for the sake of their social media following. So avoid being being discouraged from comparison. Comparison is the thief of joy.

7. Stay true to yourself!

It’s easy to lose yourself in this dating game but it is imperative that you don’t allow that to happen. Know what you are comfortable with and what you are not comfortable with and most importantly, stick with it. Always be YOU and be true and I promise your dream guy will appreciate that!

You've Got a Friend in Me?

Any friendship is going to be hard work. They take trust, commitment, and honesty to be successful. But how do you know if this relationship is worth fighting for?

 I suppose some of us struggle with friendships, because as women, we are natural born nurturers. We are loving, patient, and compassionate. Our strengths can also be our weaknesses, and because of that we may not be able to accurately judge the difference between trials and tribulations verses a situation that’s borderline toxic.

Time and loyalty also play a major role in friendships. Knowing someone for a long time, can make you feel obligated to deal with their toxic behavior, and you even begin to make excuses for them.

Not only is this harmful for your sanity & mental health, but it’s also not healthy for your friend. You should never feel guilty for wanting to remove people out of your life who cause you pain. At times, we have to be honest with ourselves, and realize when it’s time to move on from people we love that are holding us back from our full potential.

Some of you may ask, how do you know if your friendship is a toxic? Here’s a few questions.

·      How do you feel when you are with that friend?

·      Does this person hurt your feelings constantly? Finding ways to bring you down?

·      Do you question their intentions within your friendship?

·      Are you constantly making excuses for their behavior?

·      Do you even like the type of person you are friends with?

These questions may seem self-explanatory, but some of us don’t realize the harsh reality of how exhausting some of our true relationships are.

Now its your turn to look in the mirror. Ask yourself a different set of questions.

Do I always revert my friend’s venting session or storytelling back to me? “Oh yeah, that happened to me” kinda friend vs simply listening to listen & not to respond

Are you genuinely happy when your friend wins even if you’re still losing?

You could very well be the toxic friend in the equation, and be completely unaware. If you are, it’s nothing to be embarrassed about. Acknowledging is always the first step of growth.

We all, eventually, enter new seasons of life, and removing toxic people is part of the process.

Ladies, we should always strive to be positive, motivating, and honest friends who know how to take ownership of our faults. Surround yourself with people who see the value in your friendship and not those who just take advantage.

I encourage you all to evaluate yourself first, then friendships you hold dear…there may be some major adjustments to be made sis.

New Summer Slime Hair Trend

We stan for ending the summer with a bang! All of our instagram favs are on the slime wave, sporting their trendy lime green hair.

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SZA seemed to kick it off after Young Thug dropped his most recent album “Slime Language.” His long term girl friend, Karlae made her rapping debut on the album with her song “U Ain't Slime Enough.” Our Ctrl Queen made her caption one of Karlae's killer lyrics, “Dees bitches ain’t slime enuff.” We love clever captions that also bring about black girls supporting each other & leveling up. Soon after, the wave took off with dope celebrities, make up artists, models, visual designers, and more following up…

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Note some of these pictures are "flashbacks" they reposted in honor of slime season

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"The fashion industry would never survive without us."

Black people are style. 

P.S These are some of Good Girls FAVORITE people to follow, so don't skip over those @ names...we just dropped free gems.